Recently, something happened that showed me just how important this is.

My husband and I were on vacation at the beach. I was wearing my favorite bikini. We walked along the shore, laughed, and took photos. Everything was normal until a woman, about my age, approached us.

She was strangely dressed for the hot weather: long dark pants and a long-sleeved top. I was wondering how she could endure forty-degree heat like that!

— You know, — she said suddenly, without even saying hello, immediately using “you.” — At our age, dressing like that is simply inappropriate. You’re an adult woman—why show everything? Who are you trying to seduce?