The conversation flowed in its predictable pattern. Vanessa dominated most of the discussion, updating everyone on her latest brand partnerships, upcoming collaborations, and the “exciting opportunities” that seemed to fall into her lap daily. Patricia hung on every word, asking detailed questions about follower counts and engagement rates as if she were receiving a masterclass in digital marketing.
I tried to contribute when there were natural openings, sharing updates about our life at Fort Henderson, David’s recent promotion, and how we were adjusting to parenthood. But my stories seemed to disappear into the air, acknowledged with polite nods before the conversation inevitably circled back to Vanessa’s world. It was like trying to add ingredients to a recipe that had already been completed and plated.
David noticed, of course. He always noticed. He made a point of asking me follow-up questions about the things I’d mentioned, drawing me back into conversations that had moved on without me. He shared stories about the base community, about the other military families we’d grown close to, about how proud he was of the way I’d managed everything during his deployment.
His efforts were kind, but they also highlighted how little interest my own family showed in my actual life.
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