Pastor John began the service. His voice was a drone, speaking of God’s plan and heaven’s newest angels. Each word felt like a serrated knife dragging across my skin. My four-year-old daughter, Emma, sat beside me. She was swinging her legs nervously, picking at the hem of her scratchy black dress. She had been at Diane’s house that night, too. She was the only survivor of the sleepover.

Then, Diane stood up to give the eulogy.

The air in the room shifted. She approached the podium with slow, deliberate steps, gripping the wood until her knuckles turned white. She began by speaking about her “precious grandbabies” and how she had prayed for their souls. It was standard, performative grief.